Something you can count on, when buying a home, is that you will be nervous – at times you will feel very stressed, perhaps even sleepless.  It is an immense move, to buy a home, and a big commitment. In terms of stress, it’s right up there with a new job, marriage, divorce and even death.

What can you do to keep the jitters from getting the best of you? Here are three points to follow

First of all, have a plan (and prioritize). If you have carefully thought out what you want and can afford, then if you actually find it and get into contract, you’re far less likely to be upset!  If you stumble into a home that’s open, fall in love and make a purely emotional decision to write an offer, you’re far more likely to freak out! Make sure that your plan includes doing your financing decisions before you ever go house-hunting.
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Buying & selling a home is usually stressful for consumers, and some circumstances can heighten the anxiety further (being in multiple offers, buying a distressed home, or anything out of the ordinary).  Once you write an offer or receive one on your property, you may feel like a nervous wreck as you navigate the escrow period. In some cases, you may come down with a bad case of buyer’s remorse or seller’s remorse.

We’re In Escrow: Now What?

You will want insights and advice so that you’re sure that you are doing the right thing each step of the way.  Even if you have a great Realtor who thoroughly understands Silicon Valley real estate and is a fantastic communicator, perhaps you want some assurance from an outside source (who’s not being paid for closing the deal) that you really are making good choices in the home sale.

There are a bunch of bad ways to do this but also some good alternatives.

What not to do:

1. Don’t call all of your local Realtor friends whom you didn’t hire and ask for their input.  First, it’s not fair to them as businesspeople that you want their professional input but not for compensation.  Second, they aren’t supposed to meddle and it puts them in an akward position of “implied agency” in which they take on some risk (being your expert upon whose advice they rely) without the benefit of ever getting paid.
2. Beware the well-intentioned advice of non-professionals who may not be up to speed with the current market conditions, construction, your purchase agreement, etc.  Sometimes the “over the cubicle wall” advice can be very, very upsetting as these folks get a homebuyer or home seller freaked out – often over nothing or over a misunderstanding of the situation due to a lack of information.   Most often, this “advice” is from completely unqualified people and will compound problems rather than help to solve them.

How about some good alternatives?

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